On falling in love
This is based on Zizek’s view which I furthered.
The reason why people who have romantic lives are not enviable in this age is that we are returning to the pre-romantic period. I do not intend to ridicule the pre-romantic period here. Let me further upon this:
Back then, people used to get married by being forced by relatives or any circumstance which brings higher social status to the family when acted upon with strategic marital remedy, I would say. This is the love without “the fall.”
Today, rare is the love life that happened with “the fall.” And that most teenagers, for the sake of the argument, are getting love life by swiping left and right on Tinder until they find their match and have online correspondence, but still figure out the level of certainty to “fall.” This leads to an appalling perception of love and goes contrary to the idea that love is the finest form of freedom and is in itself an encounter. In other words, love is corrupted.
Our personal encounter when we stumble upon the corner of a city and see a person offering a hand for us to bring our composure back is priceless in itself and can never be replaced by online means, with of course, the proposition that the same is, as it would turn out, our significant other.
The idea of love nowadays is that which is subjected to a suspensive condition of “the fall” that is further masqueraded in this plaguing notion of acquiring labels, other than maintaining an image of likability in the sight of others, which, when uncontrolled, matures in narcissistic grains.
This compels us to raise more nuanced questions on how stupid this social atmosphere we are in right now.
Avoiding to “fall in love” is anti-essential to what love really holds. No person can ever fall in love with an intent to. Love is an encounter, an unanticipated happenstance. Downloading a dating app predisposes one to have an intent to love. Love, in this case, often turns an effort thrown in vanities.
Or it is just that our thinking of love should change and must fit with the slow normalization of things in the 21st century and to the centuries that may come.
