Adulting in an overview
Sure, others may do you good. But it is not what it seems to be.
Adulting is truly a complex process. A year ago, you may have been very open to almost everything and anything. All that adds up to your repertoire of experiences, you hunger for them. You let the course of things happen according to their design while keeping to yourself your reservations. You are situated in an environment that little by little shapes your behavior and overall subjectivity. The tedious part of adulting, I believe, is guarding yourself from the influences of others. Sure, others may do you good. But it is not what it seems to be. Too much influence from others strips you off your cherished individuality no matter how simple or complicated you may be. It is our refusal to be influenced by others that we are after because it is our first time to live in an age that is a few years back from childhood. We unconsciously intend to forge new paths for difference. We want new sensibilities to come from us. We want our own voice to mean to us. This therefore blocks the voices of others as we fight for our voice within us as if our lives depend on it. In navigating society, we have two pathways before us: go back to our former selves or let ourselves become a mosaic of time and people that we meet. Others say it is going to cost yourself once you adhere to the influences of others, of an external force or entity. Some say change ought to cost the old you lest its essence as “change” become nil. Sometimes, it is good to end beginnings; and in doing so, we subject ourselves to a series of beginnings. Sure, psychology teaches us that personality is the result of the individual’s attempt to survive. The stronger the self, the personality, the greater the need to survive. It is the hardened core that clings to old ways and thoughts, that if left unattended or unacknowledged, the self fails to be the self, or the individual fails to establish individuality.
